In this seemingly complicated world, we're bombarded with what seems like a load of everything. The word 'simple' when searched in Google returns .... results.
We are dying for simplicity and looking for everybody and everything to have a tag on them. A singer must be defined by the society as a singer, what if he or she wants to be an author too? Oh no, we don't want to hear about that. Just one label per person please otherwise we get options, and that results in us making decisions and we'd much rather have the decisions already made for us and being served on a platter. Yes, I think as a product of the Internet age, we have gotten used to a lot of things being served on a platter for us.
We are a slowly becoming a generation that are faster than ever to accept/ dismiss what is presented in front of us.
But what if you haven't had a chance to find your own voice? What if you want to try different things out before you pick one? What if you don't want to pick one and much rather have a few professions?
Well in that case, you're going to be a Zen master in order to juggle the responsibilities that come with a certain field/ profession.
Do you agree that it is difficult?
Tuesday, 27 January 2015
In order to let our dreams guide us to our purpose, we have to be willing. What does that mean? Well, our dreams demand a certain step/ action before we get the final result.
Whatever it is that you dream of has a price to pay, if you do nothing, you get nothing and you become nothing. That's obvious.
Being willing allows us to seek out opportunities that compliment our dreams and follow them through.
My 2015 resolution is to make 99 Vlog videos, being busy with the business and other commitments mean that the only time I do get is when I'm away from my house and on the move. However, I'm scared of recording in public or drawing in public. As a result I have to squeeze the little time I have left at night time to draw and upload. Which ends up affecting my health.
The technology I have on my pocket is sufficient to allow me to do work on the go but the fear I have in my heart is sufficient to stop that from happening.
At one point then we have to decide between our fears and our dreams. If we're willing to pursue our dreams we'll have to eventually step over our fears and become the person we want to be.
Do you have a fear you're trying to tame? Have you had any success yet? Comment below and let me know!
Saturday, 24 January 2015
Its almost midnight here in UK, I've just missed my main YouTube video by about three days and my blog by 1 day. The title is 'Grudge Loyalty' but what does that even mean?
It is very easy to get bored of a thing or even a person after a while, i'm not sure if bored is the right word, but you know what I mean. Its like when you get a new toy and you polish it, keep the box it came in and look at it everyday. Then suddenly after a few days, the affection you had with the toy wears out and you just throw it to one side.
If you have a dream or a side project that you always wanted to help take-off, you'd soon come at a cross junction where your excitement has level out on you and you can no longer get the same amount of joy that you could, that initial excitement takes on a different shape in your life.
The question is what do you do when that happens? When the loyalty wears off and you can no longer find the inspiration to keep you going? Do you look at the 'Why' you started and keep pushing? or do you just throw in the towel and say I've had enough!
E.T. the hip-hop preacher said that if you were going to quit, you should've done that last year or before you got started. Why quit now? You might be so close to your goal! Are you going to remember the first day when you got started and stay true to that?
Whats the alternative if you do decide to quit, to throw in the towel on what it is you're fighting for? If you have an alternative, then why haven't you dropped the project to work on the other one.
Can you relate to this blog in any way? or am I just talking to a machine which can most of the time not answer back?
Tuesday, 20 January 2015
Many a time we are looking for answers and feel like we're unable to get out of a certain situation. Whether it is being creative on a tight deadline or providing a service under pressure. It's mostly times like these when we are desperately seeking within us for a solutions, just a little something to help us catch our breath.
When we're tensed we block off the frontal section of the brain (don't quote me on this one), which is responsible for our creative thinking. When that happens, no matter how hard we focus or force our energy, ain't nothin gonna come out. Failure to force ideas out usually then means that we have to let go of the idea eventually and walk away from whatever it is we were doing.
In the relax state then, whether it be away from work that evening or just driving home after a long conversation and suddenly, it hits us. The hunch that is.
Wayne Dyer said 'if prayer is us talking to god, instinct is god talking to us'.
So next time you have a hunch, a moment of inspiration or an urge to do something. Follow it through. You never know where a hunch may lead you but if you do nothing, I promise you'll be in the same position you were before you had that thought.
You don't have to know all the steps, just the first part and you'll open new doors for yourself.
When was the last time you experienced a hunch? Comment below and let me know?
Saturday, 17 January 2015
Hitting the bullseye!
I mean knowing where you're going really helps. It really is simple if you think about it, in fact its probably so simple that you're about to judge me for being stupid enough to write this article in the first place. What's fascinating is how easy it is to not follow such a simple rule in life.
Lets take the first example of a navigator: You leave your house for a family trip or with your friends and you're driving to France. Lets do two things:
1) Remove the driver and place the car on autopilot mode, or if your car is not a robot out of a sci-fi movie, just pull the hand brakes off and let it roll
2) Give the car no direction, just let it guess the route
How long do you actually think it'll take for the car to reach its destination? More importantly how long will you wait in the car before yell out, Something is not right!
Yet, most of live our lives this way, just following a blind path and letting life roll down the hill into a cozy, comfort field.
If it's that easy, why doesn't everyone do it?
One reason is that we let the obstacles get in the way. The petty little things that take our focus away from what it is we want.
We can't always decide the minute detail. When a kid says that he/she wants to be an actress, they are not concerned about the exact Genre of the industry, or the kind of director they want to work for or anything that specific. All that kid wants to do is be an actor/ actress.
If the driver of the car decides to drive to France and that is a definite decision, come rain, puncture or a little diversion 9 times out of 10, the driver will reach its chosen location. The driver will have to leave some room for course correction.
If we are to follow our chosen dreams and goals, we will have to leave some room for course correction. Knowing where we're going is enough to keep our eye on the destination. Who cares if we have to help poor old Doris cross the road at a stop sign, it makes the trip all the more exciting.
Do you know where you are going? Are you afraid to share your destination in case someone reaches there before you and captures your flag? Or are you willing to share your destination spot and are happy to have other people on-board with you?
Comment below and let me know?
Thursday, 15 January 2015
Can you imagine Usain Bolt running with a tank bolted to his back?
How about Mo Farah with a four bin bags? Or Jessica Ennis with enough clothing for a whole street?
As we go through life you may have the tendency to accumulate MORE! That need to accumulate something we don't already have. Be it a physical possession or a status symbol. But is there a price we have to pay for all that?
If someone hurts you and changes your state to one of disarray, it is very easy to add that to your bag of bad experience and use that as a trigger to pull up that old memory and relive that moment.
But why am I even talking about this whole thing? Well, it is because past baggage is something that affected me personally. I let things that happened in the past get the best out of me today and re-living the moments only made this present moment worse for me. Which is just cray!
Detachment was the one of the things I tried and it seemed to have done the trick, as far as my life is concerned anyway.
I was inspired to try detachment when I was listening to Wayne Dyer and he talked about walking away from his house, just leaving the whole thing for his manager to give away. He said 'find out the one thing you dearly love, and then just give it away'.
For me that was my brand new laptop. It was dearer than anything I had and so I decided to give my laptop away to my sister. Hell did I know how painful that would be for a few weeks. I wasn't in denial but it definitely was a hard thing to get over. I soon discovered the benefit of not being too attached to things, and I went through my drawers and donated dozens of good pieces of clothing that I was never going to wear. Not only did it make me feel good about helping a charity but I also felt lighter. A lot lighter in fact. Soon enough my family caught on to the trend and we cleared up a quarter of our house just getting rid of things we no longer needed. Matter of fact, we're in the middle of a big clean up right now as I type this blog.
Do you have things in your life that you gave away? Do you feel lighter afterwards? Is it just me?
Comment below and let me know.
Saturday, 10 January 2015
People being people, will always judge every area of your life and stamp labels on you. Based on a quick decision they'll label you with a title, sometimes permanently.
The classic question 'What do you do for living?' Is just one way people try to base all their judgements on who you are. How does my occupation define me as a person? Can a plumber not be the cleanest soul and a prisoner not be a monk?
In the market I occasionally get mums asking me about my background, and they usually start with-
You should have finished your studies! Well, I did!
You should have gone to college then. I did that too.
What about university? I got that too!
How comes you're in the market then?
Because this is what I'm passionate about. It helps me do X Y and Z.
They always have a look on their face as if they just found the dumbest person on earth. But that is just one way people judge the status quo of someone. This is one of the main contributing factors of parents nudging their kids to go into a profession which sounds good (Doctors, lawyers etc).
I remember a particular speech I gave at Toastmaster, I tried something new and different. After the speech one of my buddy who I greatly admire came to me and said 'what happened!' you can do so much better'. I thought about that for a moment and then I said to myself, it's fine if he doesn't understand why I did that speech. To me it's not always about raising my standard. Sometimes we all need to step outside our comfort zone and try new things.
The main thing is that we should try and focus our attention of the purpose we're willing to serve, whether you're studying art or have a passion no one knows about, eventually you'll bring it out in the open and people will start placing stickers on you. That will always happen. What is more important though is that you stick to the path you laid out, focus and continue down the road in which you started. If you let the labels get to you, you'll always leave your strings in someone else's hands.
Label are good for packaging and things that are man made, but we are a gift of the creator that came with no instruction.
Can you relate to this one? Have you let your fears stop you from reaching a particular goal? or are you someone who doesn't care about what others think? Let me know in the comments below.
Tuesday, 6 January 2015
If education alone could churn out millionaires or successful entrepreneurs, all Oxford/ Harvard graduates would run this world.
Education is great, learning something new expands our field of vision, opens new doors blah, blah, blah!
But education also breeds fear. When you learn about a 1000 ways to do something, you also start getting in your own way. Getting into all the knitty gritty of the situation and missing the big picture. This is why people like Alan Sugar, Richard Branson and thousand others win the big coins, they don't fear the process, they know their outcome and follow it through to the end come what may.
This is not an excuse for you to get off the learning path. Heck, why reinvent the wheel when Dunlop is doing a great job already. The application of what you know is far more important then the information you have.
Their was a particular day when I decided to spend some time in the library. When I looked around, I saw literally a dozen of senior folks feeding their brain with the word juice pouring through the papers and I got thinking how will they ever use this information?
Who knows, maybe we'll see the next KFC come out of this library.
Yeah, back to the topic, find a way to make whatever you have in your head useful for what you do. Make it pay the time you spent on learning it in the first place.
Kill it yo!